One of the most critical tasks? Socializing your puppy well to ensure they grow up to be confident, adaptable, and resilient to things life may throw at them.
 | Socialization is more than just exposing your puppy to new people, places, and experiences. It’s about making sure those exposures are positive and stress-free. With the right approach, you can help your puppy navigate the world with curiosity instead of fear. Let’s dive into 6 core principles to help! |
Why Starting Young Matters
The first few months of a puppy’s life—often called the socialization window (from 3 weeks when they open their eyes to 12-15 weeks, depending on breed) —are critical for shaping how they perceive the world.
Experiences during this time have a lasting impact, so it’s important to start socialization early. However, don’t worry if you’ve missed this window! While it’s ideal to begin socialization as early as possible, puppies and even adult dogs can continue building confidence with patience and consistency.
Experiences during this time have a lasting impact, so it’s important to start socialization early. However, don’t worry if you’ve missed this window! While it’s ideal to begin socialization as early as possible, puppies and even adult dogs can continue building confidence with patience and consistency.
1. Quality Over Quantity
 | It’s not about how much your puppy experiences but about how good those experiences are. Instead of overwhelming your puppy with dozens of new situations, focus on creating a handful of calm, happy interactions at their pace. For example, meeting 10 friendly people over several weeks—where your puppy feels safe and relaxed—will benefit them far more than introducing them to 50 strangers in a chaotic environment. Pro Tip: Watch for signs of stress, like cowering, excessive yawning, or licking their lips. If your puppy shows these signs, scale back and give them time to decompress. |
2. Let the Puppy Choose
 | Confidence grows when puppies feel they have control over their environment. Allow your puppy to decide if they want to approach a new person, dog, or object. Forcing interactions can lead to fear or even aggression later in life. Encourage curiosity by being patient and letting your puppy explore on their own terms. If they seem hesitant, don’t push them—give them time and space to feel safe. Pro Tip: Carry treats to reward your puppy when they choose to engage with something new. This reinforces bravery and helps them associate the experience with positivity. |
3. No Forcing
 | Never drag, pull, or carry your puppy toward something they seem unsure of. Forcing your puppy into situations they’re not ready for can damage their trust in you and make them even more fearful. Instead, let curiosity bloom naturally. If they aren’t ready to explore something, move on and try again another day. Pro Tip: Use your own body language to signal calmness. Kneeling down, offering a treat, or speaking softly can encourage your puppy to explore without pressure. |
4. Reinforce, Don’t Lure
 | Luring your puppy into a situation with food or toys might seem like a good idea, but it can create feelings of coercion or conflict. They might not actually feel safe—they’re just chasing the reward. Instead, reward your puppy after they make a brave choice on their own. This helps build their confidence and ensures they’re truly ready for the experience. Pro Tip: Carry a pouch of high-value treats (like tiny pieces of chicken or cheese) to reward boldness. Timing is everything—offer the reward immediately when your puppy takes a brave step forward. |
5. Avoid Trapping Your Puppy
 | Always give your puppy an escape route during socialization. Feeling trapped—whether in your arms, on a leash, or in a crowded space—can increase fear and stress. When introducing new people or environments, ensure your puppy has the option to move away if they feel uncomfortable. This sense of control is crucial for building their resilience. Pro Tip: If your puppy seems nervous in a new situation, sit at a distance and let them observe. They’ll feel less pressure to engage and more confident as they adjust. |
6. End on a Good Note
 | No matter how well things are going, it’s essential to end each socialization session on a high note. Leave your puppy feeling happy and confident rather than tired or overwhelmed. Even if your puppy is having fun, resist the temptation to push for more. Finishing while they’re still engaged and excited ensures they’ll look forward to the next adventure. Pro Tip: After every successful interaction, celebrate with your puppy! A small treat, some praise, or a quick play session can reinforce the positive experience. |
Final Thoughts
Socialization is one of the most rewarding parts of raising a puppy. By following these 6 general principles, you’ll help your puppy grow into a resilient, happy, and well-adjusted adult dog.
Remember, socialization isn’t about ticking boxes or rushing through a checklist. It’s about creating positive, trust-building experiences that set your puppy up for a lifetime of confidence.
Remember, socialization isn’t about ticking boxes or rushing through a checklist. It’s about creating positive, trust-building experiences that set your puppy up for a lifetime of confidence.
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When we welcome a dog into our lives, they quickly become part of the family. They’re our companions, confidants, and partners in adventure. They know all our secrets and are great at keeping them (except when they give away who most often feeds them under the table…)
But as any parent knows, living harmoniously with another being is about more than love. It takes understanding, patience, and a willingness to grow together.
That’s where the Pup Parenting Pillars come in—a simple, practical framework I’ve developed to help you build a stronger bond with your dog while creating a joyful, enriching life for both of you. These pillars focus on what matters most in the relationship between you and your pup, making it easier to navigate the ups and downs of life together.
But as any parent knows, living harmoniously with another being is about more than love. It takes understanding, patience, and a willingness to grow together.
That’s where the Pup Parenting Pillars come in—a simple, practical framework I’ve developed to help you build a stronger bond with your dog while creating a joyful, enriching life for both of you. These pillars focus on what matters most in the relationship between you and your pup, making it easier to navigate the ups and downs of life together.
What Are the Pup Parenting Pillars?
The Pup Parenting Pillars are four foundational concepts designed to guide your journey as a dog parent: Live, Learn, Teach, and Play. Each pillar represents a different aspect of life with your dog, and together, they create a balanced, fulfilling approach to your relationship.
Live: Creating Safety and Predictability Dogs, like people, thrive in environments where they feel safe and secure. The first pillar, Live, focuses on establishing a calm, stress-free home for your pup. What does this look like in practice?
When your dog feels safe, they can let their guard down and have a place that truly feels like home. | Learn: Understanding Your Dog and Yourself Dogs are always communicating with us—through their body language, habits, and even the subtle ways they react to the world. The second pillar, Learn, is all about becoming a better observer and interpreter of your dog’s needs. Here’s how you can focus on learning:
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Teach: Building Life Skills with Patience and Predictability The third pillar, Teach, is about equipping your dog with the skills they need to navigate the world confidently. But teaching isn’t about obedience—it’s about empowering your dog through achievable, meaningful learning experiences. Here’s what makes this pillar unique:
Teaching is a shared experience that builds trust and strengthens your bond. It’s not about perfection but progress. | Play: Strengthening Your Relationship Through Fun Play is one of the most rewarding ways to connect with your dog, and it’s the heart of the fourth pillar. Through play, you can engage your pup’s mind and body while deepening your relationship. How does play enrich your life together?
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How the Pup Parenting Pillars Can Transform Your Journey
Life with your dog isn’t about rigid training schedules or unrealistic expectations. It’s about finding a rhythm that works for both of you—one that nurtures trust, understanding, and joy.
The Pup Parenting Pillars provide a framework to help you:
The Pup Parenting Pillars provide a framework to help you:
- Build a deeper bond with your dog based on mutual trust.
- Create a home environment where your dog feels safe and loved.
- Navigate challenges with confidence and patience.
- Find joy in everyday moments together.
Dogs are family, and the time and energy you invest in them are always worth it. By focusing on the Pup Parenting Pillars, you’ll create a life where you and your pup can thrive together. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about learning, growing, and enjoying the journey.
Whether you’re just starting out as a pup parent or looking for fresh inspiration, these pillars are here to guide you. Take a step back, reflect on your relationship with your dog, and see where you can build on these foundations.
Your dog isn’t just a part of your life—they’re a part of your heart. Let’s celebrate that every day. 💛
Whether you’re just starting out as a pup parent or looking for fresh inspiration, these pillars are here to guide you. Take a step back, reflect on your relationship with your dog, and see where you can build on these foundations.
Your dog isn’t just a part of your life—they’re a part of your heart. Let’s celebrate that every day. 💛
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As a member, you’ll get:
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]]>As a member, you’ll get:
- A growing library of on-demand videos, handouts, and tools.
- Monthly live coaching calls and office hours to address your unique challenges.
- Access to a private Facebook group where you can connect, share, and learn from others.
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When it comes to dog training and behavior, I believe in a relationship-based approach that prioritizes trust, understanding, and collaboration. Over the years, I’ve developed a set of core beliefs that guide how I help families and their dogs build stronger bonds and overcome challenges. These beliefs are the foundation of everything I do and reflect my philosophy on what it takes to create a happy and harmonious life with your dog.
If you’re looking to better understand your dog, address behavior issues, or simply strengthen your connection, these principles may resonate with you, too.
Dogs Are Family, Not Just Pets
 | Dogs are so much more than animals we share our homes with—they’re family. Just like any other family member, building trust and maintaining a strong bond with them is essential for a happy, healthy relationship. When we approach our dogs with the same care and commitment we give to other family members, it shifts how we address their needs and behaviors. It’s not just about “fixing problems” but about creating a foundation of mutual trust and understanding. Dogs thrive when they feel secure, included, and loved. |
Meet Bowen: Rather than working on teaching him all kinds of cues and commands, we took a step back and focused on creating a calm, safe environment for him. Instead of teaching him “sit” right away, we started with small moments of connection—like sitting quietly beside him or letting him approach on his terms. The transformation was incredible. Once he felt secure and valued, his willingness to learn and engage skyrocketed.
Understanding Comes First in Dog Behavior
 | To meet a dog’s needs effectively, we need to truly understand them. Every dog is unique, with their own motivations, stressors, and preferences. Observing their body language, identifying their likes and dislikes, and recognizing what makes them feel safe allows us to tailor our approach to teaching and behavior support. Understanding also means looking beyond surface behaviors. Barking, pulling on a leash, or hiding may have deeper roots, such as fear, frustration, or unmet needs. By exploring the “why” behind the behavior, we can address the root cause instead of just managing the symptoms. This understanding builds trust and creates opportunities for growth and success. |
Families Are Just as Important as the Dog
 | When I work with dogs, I’m also working with their entire family. Every household is unique, with its own goals, routines, and challenges. The family’s needs, expectations, and lifestyle are just as important as the dog’s in shaping a successful outcome. For example, a busy household with kids will have different priorities and routines than a single-person household. My goal is to align the family’s expectations with what the dog is capable of and ensure everyone is on the same page. This approach helps families create a harmonious environment where both the dog and their people can thrive. |
Behavior Problems Stem From Unmet Needs
 | Every behavior—whether it’s barking, chewing, jumping, or anything else—serves a purpose. Dogs use behavior to communicate, and often, problem behaviors are a sign that something isn’t being fulfilled. For example, a dog who jumps up on people may be seeking attention, while a dog who chews on furniture might be trying to relieve boredom or stress. By identifying the underlying need, we can address the root cause of the behavior instead of applying a quick fix. This creates lasting change and helps prevent the behavior from recurring. |
Safety and Choice Are the Greatest Gifts We Can Offer
 | Dogs, like people, thrive when they feel safe. A predictable environment with clear boundaries gives them the confidence to explore, learn, and grow. But safety isn’t just about structure—it’s also about giving dogs a sense of agency and choice. When dogs are allowed to make decisions, such as choosing when to approach a new person or deciding whether to participate in a certain activity, they build confidence and resilience. Boundaries provide the framework for safety, but flexibility within those boundaries allows dogs to flourish and feel empowered. |
Collaboration Is the Heart of Success
 | Creating a harmonious relationship between dogs and their families requires teamwork. Success doesn’t happen in isolation—it takes collaboration between the dog, their family, and professionals like trainers, veterinarians, and behavior consultants. Collaboration ensures that everyone involved is working toward the same goals and that the dog’s needs are met in a way that aligns with the family’s lifestyle. This team-based approach creates a supportive system where dogs and their people can grow, learn, and thrive together. |
Why These Beliefs Matter
These core beliefs are the foundation of my approach to teaching and supporting families with their dogs. They remind me that every dog and every family is unique and that lasting change comes from understanding, trust, and collaboration.
Whether you’re addressing specific behavior concerns, teaching your dog new skills, or simply building a stronger bond, these beliefs provide a roadmap for success. It’s not about quick fixes—it’s about creating meaningful relationships where both dogs and their people can thrive.
Whether you’re addressing specific behavior concerns, teaching your dog new skills, or simply building a stronger bond, these beliefs provide a roadmap for success. It’s not about quick fixes—it’s about creating meaningful relationships where both dogs and their people can thrive.
Your Turn: What Do You Believe About Your Dog?
Now that you’ve read about my core beliefs, I’d love to hear yours!
What values guide your relationship with your dog? Share your thoughts—I’d love to continue the conversation.
What values guide your relationship with your dog? Share your thoughts—I’d love to continue the conversation.
| If these beliefs resonate with you and you’re ready to deepen your understanding of your dog, I’d love to invite you to join my Support Club Membership. It’s a supportive space where you can access on-demand resources, live coaching calls, and a community of like-minded dog lovers. Together, we’ll work to build trust, strengthen your bond, and address your dog’s unique needs. Click here to learn more and join today! Let’s create a life where you and your dog thrive—together! 🐾 |  |
The holiday season is often described as the most wonderful time of the year, but for dog parents, it can also bring a whirlwind of stress.
Between bustling schedules, a parade of visitors, and the clatter of festive chaos, even the calmest dogs might feel overwhelmed. Thankfully, with a little planning and some creative management, you can navigate the holiday hustle while keeping your dog happy and your household peaceful.
Let’s dive into the key strategies to reduce stress for your dog—and yourself—this holiday season.
Between bustling schedules, a parade of visitors, and the clatter of festive chaos, even the calmest dogs might feel overwhelmed. Thankfully, with a little planning and some creative management, you can navigate the holiday hustle while keeping your dog happy and your household peaceful.
Let’s dive into the key strategies to reduce stress for your dog—and yourself—this holiday season.
Common Holiday Stressors for Dogs
For humans, the holidays mean joy and excitement, but for dogs, it’s a time filled with unpredictability.
Changes in Routine
Dogs thrive on routine, but during the holidays, schedules can become unpredictable. Walks might be shorter due to colder weather, meals delayed, and bedtime routines thrown off. These shifts can leave dogs feeling unsettled.
What to Do: Think of their day like a puzzle; even if you can’t keep every piece in place, make sure a few key routines remain consistent.
...For example, if dinner is running late, keep a habit like letting them outside and feeding them right after you return home.
What to Do: Think of their day like a puzzle; even if you can’t keep every piece in place, make sure a few key routines remain consistent.
...For example, if dinner is running late, keep a habit like letting them outside and feeding them right after you return home.
Unfamiliar Visitors and Environment
From delivery people to holiday guests (and sometimes their pets), your dog might face a constant stream of new faces and smells. Some dogs get excited, while others might feel nervous or even protective.
What to Do: Use barriers like gates or leashes to guide interactions, and consider giving your dog a “safe space” where they can retreat when things get overwhelming.
What to Do: Use barriers like gates or leashes to guide interactions, and consider giving your dog a “safe space” where they can retreat when things get overwhelming.
Holiday Décor
Trees, ornaments, candles, and new smells all signal that the holidays are here—but they can also confuse your dog. A decorated tree might resemble an outdoor bathroom to them, and edible-looking ornaments could become choking hazards.
What to Do: Avoid hanging tempting decorations within your dog’s reach. Consider gating off the tree if your dog is particularly curious. It might not be pretty but it's temporary.
What to Do: Avoid hanging tempting decorations within your dog’s reach. Consider gating off the tree if your dog is particularly curious. It might not be pretty but it's temporary.
Stress from their humans
Have you ever had a coworker’s stress rub off on you? Dogs are masters at picking up on emotions, and if you’re frazzled by holiday planning, they’ll mirror your stress.
What to do: Manage your expectations for both yourself and your dog. The holidays don’t need to be picture-perfect; a calm environment is the best gift for everyone.
What to do: Manage your expectations for both yourself and your dog. The holidays don’t need to be picture-perfect; a calm environment is the best gift for everyone.
Holiday Survival Strategies for Dog Parents
Managing your dog’s needs during the holidays doesn’t have to be complicated. These strategies will help you both enjoy the season:
 | Focus on Predictability Predictability is the antidote to stress. Create consistent cues and patterns for your dog, even during the busiest days. Example: If you’re expecting guests, narrate what’s happening. Say, “Grandma’s coming. Let’s go to your safe space,” and lead them to a quiet room with a chew toy. Over time, your dog will associate this routine with something positive. |
Management Over Training
The holidays aren’t the time for intensive training sessions. Instead, rely on management tools like gates, leashes, and crates to set boundaries and prevent unwanted behaviors.
The holidays aren’t the time for intensive training sessions. Instead, rely on management tools like gates, leashes, and crates to set boundaries and prevent unwanted behaviors.
Meet Basic Needs First
The “Five Freedoms” for dogs provide a great guide:
The “Five Freedoms” for dogs provide a great guide:
- Freedom from hunger and thirst: Stick to regular feeding and ensure they always have access to fresh water.
- Freedom from discomfort: Provide comfortable spaces for rest, especially if the house is noisy.
- Freedom from pain or illness: Address any medical concerns before the holidays to avoid added stress.
- Freedom from fear and distress: Keep your dog away from overwhelming situations, like noisy crowds or intrusive guests.
- Freedom to express normal behavior: Allow your dog opportunities to sniff, play, and relax.
Quick Tips for Navigating the Holiday Hustle
Here are some practical tips to help you and your dog have a stress-free holiday season:
Previsit Exercise
Before guests arrive, take your dog on a “sniffari.” Let them explore with their nose on a long walk, which is mentally enriching and tires them out in a calming way. It’s like letting a toddler roam a playground instead of running laps—they’ll be calmer and more satisfied afterward.
Before guests arrive, take your dog on a “sniffari.” Let them explore with their nose on a long walk, which is mentally enriching and tires them out in a calming way. It’s like letting a toddler roam a playground instead of running laps—they’ll be calmer and more satisfied afterward.
Limit Doorbells and Knocking
Doorbells are the equivalent of someone shouting “Fire!” in a crowded room—they spike your dog’s arousal.
What to Do: Ask guests to text you upon arrival. Use technology like video doorbells or simply watch for visitors so you can reduce the triggers.
Doorbells are the equivalent of someone shouting “Fire!” in a crowded room—they spike your dog’s arousal.
What to Do: Ask guests to text you upon arrival. Use technology like video doorbells or simply watch for visitors so you can reduce the triggers.
Leash Management
Use a leash to guide your dog’s interactions when guests arrive. To avoid signaling that something exciting is about to happen, put the leash on during a normal activity, like a walk, beforehand.
Use a leash to guide your dog’s interactions when guests arrive. To avoid signaling that something exciting is about to happen, put the leash on during a normal activity, like a walk, beforehand.
Use a Gate as a Buffer
Think of a gate as your dog’s security checkpoint—it slows down interactions and gives everyone time to adjust. When guests arrive, a gate allows your dog to observe the situation from a safe distance before deciding to interact.
For example, if Aunt Susan arrives with her excitable toddler, the gate ensures your dog isn’t overwhelmed by immediate contact. It’s also helpful for preventing accidental escapes or over-enthusiastic greetings.
Think of a gate as your dog’s security checkpoint—it slows down interactions and gives everyone time to adjust. When guests arrive, a gate allows your dog to observe the situation from a safe distance before deciding to interact.
For example, if Aunt Susan arrives with her excitable toddler, the gate ensures your dog isn’t overwhelmed by immediate contact. It’s also helpful for preventing accidental escapes or over-enthusiastic greetings.
Set Up a Safe Space
Create a designated “off-duty” area for your dog, equipped with their bed, toys, and a white noise machine. This gives them a chance to decompress while you entertain.
Create a designated “off-duty” area for your dog, equipped with their bed, toys, and a white noise machine. This gives them a chance to decompress while you entertain.
No "Candy" from strangers
Imagine a shy dog stretching their neck like a giraffe to grab a treat from a stranger, only to retreat in fear once the food is gone. While well-meaning, luring nervous dogs with food can create conflict—they want the treat but aren’t ready to trust the person. For excitable dogs, hand-feeding from guests can encourage overly enthusiastic behavior, like jumping or crowding people.
What to Try Instead:
Treat-and-Retreat: For shy dogs, have guests toss treats away from them, letting the dog approach at their own pace.
Go Say Hi: Teach excitable dogs to briefly greet a guest, like touching their hand, and then return to you for a treat.
Bring a Gift: Ask guests to bring a toy or pre-stuffed Kong (or plant on outside for them to grab), which you can hand to your dog yourself.
By avoiding direct feeding, you set your dog up for calmer, more positive interactions with guests.
Imagine a shy dog stretching their neck like a giraffe to grab a treat from a stranger, only to retreat in fear once the food is gone. While well-meaning, luring nervous dogs with food can create conflict—they want the treat but aren’t ready to trust the person. For excitable dogs, hand-feeding from guests can encourage overly enthusiastic behavior, like jumping or crowding people.
What to Try Instead:
Treat-and-Retreat: For shy dogs, have guests toss treats away from them, letting the dog approach at their own pace.
Go Say Hi: Teach excitable dogs to briefly greet a guest, like touching their hand, and then return to you for a treat.
Bring a Gift: Ask guests to bring a toy or pre-stuffed Kong (or plant on outside for them to grab), which you can hand to your dog yourself.
By avoiding direct feeding, you set your dog up for calmer, more positive interactions with guests.
Here's some permission you don't need but can have anyways
The holidays come with a lot of pressure, but it’s okay to make adjustments for the well-being of your dog and yourself. Here’s your permission slip:
- It’s Okay to Say No
It’s okay to decline hosting or having guests over if it’s too stressful for you or your dog. - It’s Okay to Skip Activities
Your dog doesn’t need to be involved in every holiday tradition. They’ll be just as happy with some quiet time. - It’s Okay to Stay Home
If your dog isn’t ready for the chaos of travel, staying home together is a perfectly valid choice. - It’s Okay to Send Your Dog Elsewhere
A trusted pet sitter or boarding facility can help ease the stress for both of you.
The best gift you can give your dog—and yourself—this holiday season is a calm and predictable environment. By focusing on their basic needs, using management tools, and setting realistic expectations, you’ll create a season that’s joyful and peaceful for everyone involved. Remember, every small adjustment you make contributes to your dog’s comfort and happiness.
5 Essential Questions to Ask When Choosing a Vet for your Family Pet Team
Choosing the right vet is not just about medical expertise—it’s about finding someone who understands and prioritizes your dog's emotional well-being, especially if they’re prone to anxiety.
While vets and vet techs do their best with the resources and tools they have, they don’t always get the full picture or see what happens behind the scenes at home. That's why it’s so important to remain curious, empathetic, and respectful while advocating for your dog’s needs.
Here are five essential questions to ask when selecting a vet for your anxious pet. These will help ensure that the clinic not only takes care of your dog’s physical health but also makes them feel comfortable and safe during every visit.
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While vets and vet techs do their best with the resources and tools they have, they don’t always get the full picture or see what happens behind the scenes at home. That's why it’s so important to remain curious, empathetic, and respectful while advocating for your dog’s needs.
Here are five essential questions to ask when selecting a vet for your anxious pet. These will help ensure that the clinic not only takes care of your dog’s physical health but also makes them feel comfortable and safe during every visit.
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1. Can I request a specific vet and vet tech for appointments?
Why it matters:
Dogs are creatures of habit, and familiarity with the same people can drastically reduce their stress levels during vet visits. An anxious dog might feel overwhelmed when meeting new faces, but seeing the same vet and vet tech consistently can help build trust and a sense of security. This trust is especially important for dogs who struggle with the stress of medical exams.
What to look for:
Look for clinics that allow you to request specific vets and techs for your appointments. A consistent team will get to know your dog’s triggers and needs, allowing them to adapt their approach. Over time, this familiarity can help your dog feel more at ease, knowing what to expect and who will be handling them.
What to avoid:
Be cautious of clinics where there’s frequent staff turnover or where it’s difficult to request the same team. A rotating team might not have the chance to form a relationship with your dog, which can lead to increased stress during visits. If the clinic doesn’t seem to value consistency, it may not be the best fit for an anxious pet.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Understand that staffing challenges happen—vets and vet techs might have limited control over their schedules. While consistency is important, approach the conversation with empathy. Ask the clinic how they manage anxious pets when consistent staffing isn’t possible. Staying open and asking questions helps you remain informed and fosters collaboration between you and the clinic.
Dogs are creatures of habit, and familiarity with the same people can drastically reduce their stress levels during vet visits. An anxious dog might feel overwhelmed when meeting new faces, but seeing the same vet and vet tech consistently can help build trust and a sense of security. This trust is especially important for dogs who struggle with the stress of medical exams.
What to look for:
Look for clinics that allow you to request specific vets and techs for your appointments. A consistent team will get to know your dog’s triggers and needs, allowing them to adapt their approach. Over time, this familiarity can help your dog feel more at ease, knowing what to expect and who will be handling them.
What to avoid:
Be cautious of clinics where there’s frequent staff turnover or where it’s difficult to request the same team. A rotating team might not have the chance to form a relationship with your dog, which can lead to increased stress during visits. If the clinic doesn’t seem to value consistency, it may not be the best fit for an anxious pet.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Understand that staffing challenges happen—vets and vet techs might have limited control over their schedules. While consistency is important, approach the conversation with empathy. Ask the clinic how they manage anxious pets when consistent staffing isn’t possible. Staying open and asking questions helps you remain informed and fosters collaboration between you and the clinic.
2. Do you offer pre-visit medications to reduce stress?
Why it matters:
For highly anxious dogs, the stress of a vet visit begins long before you walk through the clinic doors. Pre-visit medications or calming supplements can help ease their anxiety, making the entire process more manageable. Reducing stress before you even arrive at the clinic can set a more positive tone for the visit.
What to look for:
Choose a clinic that is open to discussing pre-visit medication or natural calming aids. These might include anti-anxiety medications, pheromone sprays, or calming treats. A vet who offers these solutions understands the emotional aspect of vet visits and is proactive in addressing your dog’s stress before it escalates.
What to avoid:
Avoid clinics that dismiss your concerns about anxiety or suggest that your dog will “just get over it.” If a vet doesn’t offer pre-visit calming strategies or isn’t open to discussing anxiety management, they may not fully grasp the emotional toll these visits can have on pets and owners alike.
Remaining curious:
Remember that not every vet is trained in behavioral science, and they may not be familiar with all anxiety-reducing options. Stay curious and empathetic when discussing your concerns. Ask if they’ve had experience with anxious pets and what their preferred approach is. They might not have all the answers right away, but expressing your willingness to work together can encourage a collaborative atmosphere where you both learn what works best for your dog.
For highly anxious dogs, the stress of a vet visit begins long before you walk through the clinic doors. Pre-visit medications or calming supplements can help ease their anxiety, making the entire process more manageable. Reducing stress before you even arrive at the clinic can set a more positive tone for the visit.
What to look for:
Choose a clinic that is open to discussing pre-visit medication or natural calming aids. These might include anti-anxiety medications, pheromone sprays, or calming treats. A vet who offers these solutions understands the emotional aspect of vet visits and is proactive in addressing your dog’s stress before it escalates.
What to avoid:
Avoid clinics that dismiss your concerns about anxiety or suggest that your dog will “just get over it.” If a vet doesn’t offer pre-visit calming strategies or isn’t open to discussing anxiety management, they may not fully grasp the emotional toll these visits can have on pets and owners alike.
Remaining curious:
Remember that not every vet is trained in behavioral science, and they may not be familiar with all anxiety-reducing options. Stay curious and empathetic when discussing your concerns. Ask if they’ve had experience with anxious pets and what their preferred approach is. They might not have all the answers right away, but expressing your willingness to work together can encourage a collaborative atmosphere where you both learn what works best for your dog.
3. Can I handle or be with my dog during the procedure?
Why it matters:
For many dogs, having their owner nearby can be a source of comfort, especially during potentially stressful procedures like vaccinations or exams. Being present allows you to provide reassurance and helps your dog feel safer. When your dog is less anxious, the entire procedure may go more smoothly for everyone involved.
What to look for:
Look for a clinic that is open to allowing owners to be present during certain procedures. Some clinics will let you help comfort your dog by holding them or simply being there to offer soothing words. This can help reduce your dog’s stress and improve their overall experience.
What to avoid:
Be cautious if a clinic has rigid policies that prevent owners from being involved without explanation, particularly during minor procedures. If the vet isn’t open to discussing your role in keeping your dog calm, it could be a sign they prioritize efficiency over your dog’s emotional well-being. That said, there are legitimate reasons some clinics may prefer to handle certain procedures without owners present for safety or focus reasons—what’s important is the willingness to explain why.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Ask the clinic to explain their reasoning if they prefer you not to be in the room. In some cases, they might feel it’s safer or easier to complete a procedure without an owner present. Stay open to understanding their perspective—after all, vets want what’s best for your pet, too. You can remain empathetic while still advocating for your dog’s comfort by asking if there are other ways you can help, such as calming your dog beforehand or offering support after the procedure.
For many dogs, having their owner nearby can be a source of comfort, especially during potentially stressful procedures like vaccinations or exams. Being present allows you to provide reassurance and helps your dog feel safer. When your dog is less anxious, the entire procedure may go more smoothly for everyone involved.
What to look for:
Look for a clinic that is open to allowing owners to be present during certain procedures. Some clinics will let you help comfort your dog by holding them or simply being there to offer soothing words. This can help reduce your dog’s stress and improve their overall experience.
What to avoid:
Be cautious if a clinic has rigid policies that prevent owners from being involved without explanation, particularly during minor procedures. If the vet isn’t open to discussing your role in keeping your dog calm, it could be a sign they prioritize efficiency over your dog’s emotional well-being. That said, there are legitimate reasons some clinics may prefer to handle certain procedures without owners present for safety or focus reasons—what’s important is the willingness to explain why.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Ask the clinic to explain their reasoning if they prefer you not to be in the room. In some cases, they might feel it’s safer or easier to complete a procedure without an owner present. Stay open to understanding their perspective—after all, vets want what’s best for your pet, too. You can remain empathetic while still advocating for your dog’s comfort by asking if there are other ways you can help, such as calming your dog beforehand or offering support after the procedure.
4. Are you familiar with Cooperative Care or Low Stress handling?
Why it matters:
Cooperative Care, Fear Free™, and Low Stress Handling® techniques are specifically designed to reduce fear, anxiety, and stress in pets during vet visits. Vets trained in these methods focus on handling pets gently, using positive reinforcement, and minimizing discomfort. This makes visits less stressful for both you and your dog, and can significantly improve your dog’s perception of the vet clinic over time.
What to look for:
Seek out clinics where staff members are certified in Fear Free or Low-Stress Handling® techniques. These clinics may offer desensitization visits or allow dogs to be more actively involved in their care through cooperative techniques (such as teaching your dog to offer a paw for a blood draw). They also focus on minimizing stress through distraction, positive reinforcement, and environmental adjustments.
What to avoid:
Avoid clinics where fear or stress in pets is treated as an afterthought. If the staff seem rushed or use forceful restraint methods without considering alternative approaches, it may not be the best fit for an anxious dog. This could lead to more negative associations with vet visits, making it harder to help your dog feel comfortable in the future.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Keep in mind that many vets and vet techs are doing their best with the tools they have. Fear Free certification is a relatively new concept, and not all professionals may be familiar with it yet. However, this doesn’t mean they don’t care about your dog’s emotional well-being. If your vet isn’t familiar with these methods, ask if they’re open to learning more. Share resources or offer to bring up cooperative care techniques, and approach the conversation with curiosity and empathy. After all, we’re all learning, and it can be a collaborative process.
Cooperative Care, Fear Free™, and Low Stress Handling® techniques are specifically designed to reduce fear, anxiety, and stress in pets during vet visits. Vets trained in these methods focus on handling pets gently, using positive reinforcement, and minimizing discomfort. This makes visits less stressful for both you and your dog, and can significantly improve your dog’s perception of the vet clinic over time.
What to look for:
Seek out clinics where staff members are certified in Fear Free or Low-Stress Handling® techniques. These clinics may offer desensitization visits or allow dogs to be more actively involved in their care through cooperative techniques (such as teaching your dog to offer a paw for a blood draw). They also focus on minimizing stress through distraction, positive reinforcement, and environmental adjustments.
What to avoid:
Avoid clinics where fear or stress in pets is treated as an afterthought. If the staff seem rushed or use forceful restraint methods without considering alternative approaches, it may not be the best fit for an anxious dog. This could lead to more negative associations with vet visits, making it harder to help your dog feel comfortable in the future.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Keep in mind that many vets and vet techs are doing their best with the tools they have. Fear Free certification is a relatively new concept, and not all professionals may be familiar with it yet. However, this doesn’t mean they don’t care about your dog’s emotional well-being. If your vet isn’t familiar with these methods, ask if they’re open to learning more. Share resources or offer to bring up cooperative care techniques, and approach the conversation with curiosity and empathy. After all, we’re all learning, and it can be a collaborative process.
5. Do you offer Happy Visits?
Why it matters:
Happy Visits are non-medical trips to the vet’s office that allow your dog to explore, meet the staff, and leave without any stressful procedures. These visits help build positive associations with the clinic, so future visits are less intimidating. Over time, your dog will come to see the vet as a fun and rewarding place, rather than one to fear.
What to look for:
Find a clinic that encourages or offers Happy Visits, where your dog can come in just to say hi, get some treats, and leave without an exam. This helps your dog become more familiar with the vet office environment without the added stress of a medical procedure. A vet who supports these visits understands the long-term importance of building trust and confidence in anxious dogs.
What to avoid:
If a clinic is solely focused on efficiency and medical care, they may dismiss the importance of Happy Visits. Avoid places where your dog is rushed in and out without any chance to acclimate to the environment. This lack of consideration for your dog’s emotional needs can make each visit more stressful than it needs to be.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Not all clinics are set up to offer Happy Visits, and that’s okay. If the clinic doesn’t offer them, ask how they approach anxiety management in other ways. Stay open to the idea that even if Happy Visits aren’t possible, other strategies like stress-reducing waiting room setups, separate dog and cat areas, or quick, calm exams can make a big difference in how your dog perceives the clinic. Empathy for the limitations vets may face—such as busy schedules or space constraints—can help you find a solution that works for both parties.
Happy Visits are non-medical trips to the vet’s office that allow your dog to explore, meet the staff, and leave without any stressful procedures. These visits help build positive associations with the clinic, so future visits are less intimidating. Over time, your dog will come to see the vet as a fun and rewarding place, rather than one to fear.
What to look for:
Find a clinic that encourages or offers Happy Visits, where your dog can come in just to say hi, get some treats, and leave without an exam. This helps your dog become more familiar with the vet office environment without the added stress of a medical procedure. A vet who supports these visits understands the long-term importance of building trust and confidence in anxious dogs.
What to avoid:
If a clinic is solely focused on efficiency and medical care, they may dismiss the importance of Happy Visits. Avoid places where your dog is rushed in and out without any chance to acclimate to the environment. This lack of consideration for your dog’s emotional needs can make each visit more stressful than it needs to be.
How to remain curious and empathetic:
Not all clinics are set up to offer Happy Visits, and that’s okay. If the clinic doesn’t offer them, ask how they approach anxiety management in other ways. Stay open to the idea that even if Happy Visits aren’t possible, other strategies like stress-reducing waiting room setups, separate dog and cat areas, or quick, calm exams can make a big difference in how your dog perceives the clinic. Empathy for the limitations vets may face—such as busy schedules or space constraints—can help you find a solution that works for both parties.
Choosing the right vet for your anxious dog means finding a clinic that balances excellent medical care with a deep understanding of your pet’s emotional needs. Remember, vets and vet staff are often working hard with the resources they have, and they may not always have the same perspective or knowledge about behavior that you do. Stay curious, ask questions, and approach the process with empathy, knowing that both you and the vet want the same outcome: a healthy, happy, and less stressed dog.
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Ever work with your dog, feel like you're making good momentum, and then get STUCK somewhere in the process? Me too.
When your dog's training plan doesn’t seem to be working, it’s easy to feel frustrated or unsure about what to change. The EVAL Process is a great tool for analyzing what might be going wrong and where to adjust your approach. It focuses on four key areas: Experience, Value, Action, and Level. By taking a closer look at each of these areas, you can identify the source of the issue and find a path forward.
When your dog's training plan doesn’t seem to be working, it’s easy to feel frustrated or unsure about what to change. The EVAL Process is a great tool for analyzing what might be going wrong and where to adjust your approach. It focuses on four key areas: Experience, Value, Action, and Level. By taking a closer look at each of these areas, you can identify the source of the issue and find a path forward.
Let's look at the 4 different ways you can EVAL where things are not working...
Before we jump in, I do want to stress the importance of having your Veterinarian on board and aware of any sudden behavior changes in your dog. More often than not, sudden changes are linked to underlying medical issues that show up in our dog's behavior before showing up through physical means.
A recent study shows that "Musculoskeletal but also painful gastro-intestinal and dermatological conditions are commonly recognized as significant to the animal’s problem behavior." Source
That being said, assuming that your dog has had a Veterinary check-up and was cleared, sometimes the only way to determine whether to go down the road of further testing is by trying to shift the behavior plans to see if that brings further progress.
So let's take a look at the EVAL Process...
So let's take a look at the EVAL Process...
Experience: How Full is Your Dog’s Learning Bank?
Experience refers to how much practice your dog has had performing certain behaviors and what they’ve learned from those experiences.
Every behavior your dog performs leads to some form of reinforcement, whether positive or negative, which adds or takes away from their "learning bank."
Think of this as a savings account: every time your dog successfully performs a behavior and receives a reward, you’re making a deposit into their learning bank. This increases the likelihood that they will perform the behavior again in the future.
On the other hand, if a behavior leads to the removal of something your dog values, such as freedom or playtime, you’re making a withdrawal.
Questions to Consider:
Example: If your dog comes to you when called and you immediately put on a leash and end their playtime, they may begin to associate coming when called with the loss of freedom. To avoid this, try alternating outcomes—sometimes put the leash on, and other times, give them a treat and let them keep playing. This way, you're keeping the reward bank full.
Remember... The goal is to fill up your dog’s learning bank with positive experiences so that when you occasionally have to make a withdrawal (like leashing up after recall), your dog is still in the positive.
Every behavior your dog performs leads to some form of reinforcement, whether positive or negative, which adds or takes away from their "learning bank."
Think of this as a savings account: every time your dog successfully performs a behavior and receives a reward, you’re making a deposit into their learning bank. This increases the likelihood that they will perform the behavior again in the future.
On the other hand, if a behavior leads to the removal of something your dog values, such as freedom or playtime, you’re making a withdrawal.
Questions to Consider:
- How often is the behavior you want being reinforced with something valuable?
- How often does performing a behavior lead to the removal of a reward (like freedom, treats, or toys)?
Example: If your dog comes to you when called and you immediately put on a leash and end their playtime, they may begin to associate coming when called with the loss of freedom. To avoid this, try alternating outcomes—sometimes put the leash on, and other times, give them a treat and let them keep playing. This way, you're keeping the reward bank full.
Remember... The goal is to fill up your dog’s learning bank with positive experiences so that when you occasionally have to make a withdrawal (like leashing up after recall), your dog is still in the positive.
Value: Is the Reward Truly Rewarding?
Next, you'll want to evaluate the Value of the reward you are using or reinforcing your dog with.
The value of a reward lies in your dog’s opinion, not yours. What you think should be motivating may not be valuable to your dog in that particular moment.
For example, you might assume that tossing a ball for your dog is rewarding, but what if your dog would rather chew on it or engage in a game of tug?
The value of a reward can also shift depending on the environment or the presence of distractions. What might work at home—like a piece of kibble—may not hold up against the excitement of the outdoors, where smells, sounds, and other distractions are competing for your dog’s attention.
Questions to consider:
Remember... Always ensure that the reward you’re offering is something your dog truly wants, especially when working in more challenging environments.
The value of a reward lies in your dog’s opinion, not yours. What you think should be motivating may not be valuable to your dog in that particular moment.
For example, you might assume that tossing a ball for your dog is rewarding, but what if your dog would rather chew on it or engage in a game of tug?
The value of a reward can also shift depending on the environment or the presence of distractions. What might work at home—like a piece of kibble—may not hold up against the excitement of the outdoors, where smells, sounds, and other distractions are competing for your dog’s attention.
Questions to consider:
- Is the reward you’re using valuable to your dog in that moment?
- How does the value of the reward compare to the level of distraction or the difficulty of the task?
Remember... Always ensure that the reward you’re offering is something your dog truly wants, especially when working in more challenging environments.
Action: Timing and Consistency are Key
Action is a critical part of the EVAL method, and it refers to how quickly and CLEARLY you are taking ACTION with your dog.
If there is a delay between when your dog performs the behavior and when you mark or reward it, they might not connect the reward to the behavior you’re trying to reinforce. Worse, they could associate the reward with something else entirely.
Timing is everything when it comes to effective training. For example, if you’re teaching your dog to stay, and you call them to you before rewarding them, you’re likely reinforcing the recall, not the stay. To build a stronger “stay,” you need to reward your dog while they are staying—not after they've broken position.
Questions to Consider:
Example: If you want to reinforce your dog’s stay, you should go back to them while they’re still in position and give them a treat. This way, you’re rewarding the desired behavior before they have a chance to move.
Remember... The quicker and clearer you are with your reinforcement, the better your dog will understand which behaviors lead to rewards.
If there is a delay between when your dog performs the behavior and when you mark or reward it, they might not connect the reward to the behavior you’re trying to reinforce. Worse, they could associate the reward with something else entirely.
Timing is everything when it comes to effective training. For example, if you’re teaching your dog to stay, and you call them to you before rewarding them, you’re likely reinforcing the recall, not the stay. To build a stronger “stay,” you need to reward your dog while they are staying—not after they've broken position.
Questions to Consider:
- Are you clearly marking the exact behavior you want to reinforce?
- Are you consistently rewarding the correct behavior immediately after it happens?
Example: If you want to reinforce your dog’s stay, you should go back to them while they’re still in position and give them a treat. This way, you’re rewarding the desired behavior before they have a chance to move.
Remember... The quicker and clearer you are with your reinforcement, the better your dog will understand which behaviors lead to rewards.
Level: Matching the Challenge to Your Dog’s Ability
Finally, you'll want to look at the LEVEL.
The level of difficulty plays a major role in whether your dog can successfully perform a behavior. Just like people, dogs can become overwhelmed if the task is too challenging or the environment too distracting. A dog who can walk nicely on a leash in the backyard may struggle to do the same on a busy trail filled with new smells and sounds.
It’s important to ensure that the level of the ask is appropriate for your dog’s current skills and emotional state. If your dog is stressed, anxious, or too excited, their ability to focus and perform learned behaviors will be diminished.
Questions to Consider:
Example: If your dog is struggling to walk on a leash in a new environment, it may be time to step back and practice in a less challenging setting. Build up their skills gradually by increasing the level of distraction slowly, rather than jumping from a calm environment to a highly stimulating one.
Remember... Work within your dog’s learning zone and gradually increase the difficulty as they build confidence and skill.
The level of difficulty plays a major role in whether your dog can successfully perform a behavior. Just like people, dogs can become overwhelmed if the task is too challenging or the environment too distracting. A dog who can walk nicely on a leash in the backyard may struggle to do the same on a busy trail filled with new smells and sounds.
It’s important to ensure that the level of the ask is appropriate for your dog’s current skills and emotional state. If your dog is stressed, anxious, or too excited, their ability to focus and perform learned behaviors will be diminished.
Questions to Consider:
- Is the difficulty level of the behavior appropriate for your dog in this environment?
- Are your expectations realistic given your dog’s emotional and physical state?
Example: If your dog is struggling to walk on a leash in a new environment, it may be time to step back and practice in a less challenging setting. Build up their skills gradually by increasing the level of distraction slowly, rather than jumping from a calm environment to a highly stimulating one.
Remember... Work within your dog’s learning zone and gradually increase the difficulty as they build confidence and skill.
By evaluating your training through the EVAL Process—Experience, Value, Action, and Level—you can pinpoint where things might be going wrong and make the necessary adjustments. Whether it’s increasing the value of your rewards, improving your timing, or lowering the difficulty of the task, these small shifts can lead to big improvements.
Reflection: Which part of the EVAL process do you and your dog struggle with the most? Share your experiences in the comments, or reach out if you need personalized help with troubleshooting your dog’s training.
Reflection: Which part of the EVAL process do you and your dog struggle with the most? Share your experiences in the comments, or reach out if you need personalized help with troubleshooting your dog’s training.
Which part of the EVAL process do you and your dog struggle with the most?
Share your experiences in the comments!
Share your experiences in the comments!
Watch the video below for even more information about what this may look like. Then hop on over to the Virtual Membership to get support not only on what and why you might be stuck but HOW to actually take the next steps forward!
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Or contact me today to set up virtual or in-person coaching and consulting for your family dog
What is HAPPY Tethering?
A Positive Approach to Introducing Your Dog to a Tether
Tethering can be a powerful tool in managing your dog’s environment, ensuring their safety, and teaching them to settle in specific areas. Whether you’re preparing for guests, need your dog to stay put while you handle other tasks, or simply want to create a designated safe space for them, tethering, when done right, can be a wonderful tool.
In this blog post, I’ll guide you through the steps to introduce your dog to a tether in a positive and stress-free way.
In this blog post, I’ll guide you through the steps to introduce your dog to a tether in a positive and stress-free way.
Why Use a Tether?
A tether, sometimes referred to as a "tie-down", provides a controlled environment where your dog can safely explore their surroundings while learning to remain calm and relaxed. It’s particularly helpful during training sessions or in situations where you need your dog to stay in one place. But like any tool, how you introduce and use a tether will determine its success.
First, be sure to consider the tether you use and the location
- Select the Tether: The key to successful tethering is choosing a sturdy, non-chewable tether. A 3-4 foot coated wire tether often works best, offering enough room for your dog to move around comfortably without the risk of getting tangled.
- Provide enriching options:
Provide toys, bones, and a comfortable space to rest, as well as the ability to choose where to lay down.
- Location, Location, Location: Attach the tether to a secure, immovable object in a safe, dog-friendly area. Clear the space of any items your dog might chew or destroy, and provide options like toys, bones, and a comfy bed for them to relax on.
STAGE 1: Introduce the Tether Positively
- Positive Associations First: Before clipping the tether to your dog, allow them to explore it on their own. Reward them with treats when they approach or show interest in the tether.
- Clip It On: Once your dog is comfortable around the tether and the area of tethering, gently clip it onto their harness or collar. Immediately offer praise and treats (on the ground/bed) so the clipping of the tether stays positive and engaging.
- Start Small: Keep the first few trials very short—just a few minutes at a time, ending on a successful note.
STAGE 2: Increasing Time
- Slow and Steady: Gradually increase the time your dog spends on the tether over several sessions. Always stay nearby and provide rewards intermittently.
- Encourage Relaxation: Encourage (but don’t demand) your dog to lie down or settle while on the tether. Offer a comfortable mat or bed and praise them when they relax. Remember how important agency and choice is for dogs .If your dog is struggling, go back a step.
STAGE 3: Adding Distraction
- Vary the Environment: Once your dog is comfortable with the tether, practice in different areas of your home and around more difficult distractions.
- Listen with your eyes: Always watch body language and assess whether it still feels positive and not frustrating or scary for your dog. Some dogs are more sensitive to the sound of the tether or any movement of furniture they're attached to. If that happens, take a step back and reassess.
Pro Tips for Success
- Stay Positive: Always associate the tether with positive experiences, offering rewards and comfort throughout the process.
- Supervise: Never leave your dog unattended while they’re tethered.
- Be Patient: Every dog learns at their own pace. While some dogs may take to tethering quickly, others might need more time to adjust. Remember, the key is patience and consistency.
Common Challenges:
- Restlessness or Whining: If your dog becomes restless or starts whining, calmly wait for a moment of quiet before rewarding. Avoid reinforcing the behavior by removing the tether when they’re noisy.
- Chewing the Tether: Redirect your dog’s attention with toys or chews. If they persist in chewing, consider using a different material or take a step back in their training.
- Over-excitement: If your dog becomes overexcited when on the tether, practice relaxation techniques like slow breathing, gentle petting, or offering a calming toy.
 | Tethering, when done correctly, can be an invaluable tool in managing your dog’s behavior and helping them learn to settle in different environments. By introducing the tether gradually and maintaining a positive approach, you can create a safe and comfortable space for your dog while reinforcing good behavior. |
For more in-depth guidance, check out the Miss Behavior Membership where you'll get virtual support during the teaching process.
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When we think of Toy Dogs, many might picture petite, cuddly companions perfectly suited for an Instagram photo. However, these small dogs, known for their companionship and charm, carry a rich history and distinct traits that make them much more than just adorable pets.
Toy Dogs include those who were historically bred for the purpose of companionship and as lap dogs, based in ethology, not AKC or UKC standards. These include, but aren't limited to:
The Pekingese, Pomeranian, Pug, Chinese Crested, Cavalier King Charles, Papillon, Toy Poodle, Lhasa Apso, Tibetan Spaniel, Shih Tzu, and more.
Toy Dogs include those who were historically bred for the purpose of companionship and as lap dogs, based in ethology, not AKC or UKC standards. These include, but aren't limited to:
The Pekingese, Pomeranian, Pug, Chinese Crested, Cavalier King Charles, Papillon, Toy Poodle, Lhasa Apso, Tibetan Spaniel, Shih Tzu, and more.
A Glimpse into their History
 | Toy Dogs, often revered as "Little Lion Dogs," have deep roots in ancient civilizations. Breeds like the Pekingese, Lhasa Apso, Shih Tzu, and Tibetan Spaniel were not just pets but symbols of status and spirituality. Originating in China and Tibet, these breeds were cherished by emperors and served as companions to Buddhist monks before gaining popularity among European nobility. The Maltese, one of the original toy breeds, traces its lineage back to ancient Egypt and the Mediterranean island of Malta, around 1500 BC. These dogs were considered a status symbol in ancient Greek and Roman cultures, underlining their prestigious heritage. |
How did they get so small?
One of the fascinating aspects of Toy Dogs is their genetics. It's believed that these breeds carry 1-3 types of dwarfism mutations in their genes, which contribute to their small size—a trait that sets them apart from their larger ancestors. This genetic distinction has played a significant role in shaping their appearance and behavior.
The Role of Toy Dogs Today
In the modern world, Toy Dogs primarily serve as companions. Their small size makes them ideal lap warmers and snuggle buddies, providing their human counterparts with a comforting presence that triggers the release of oxytocin, the "love hormone."
Despite their diminutive stature, Toy Dogs are known for their intuitive and engaging nature. They are curious, portable, and can be incredibly comforting, making them perfect companions for those seeking a close bond with their pet.
However, with their strengths come challenges. Toy Dogs can be co-dependent, needy for attention, defensive, and wary of strangers. Their small size also makes them more fragile, requiring careful handling and a safe environment.
Despite their diminutive stature, Toy Dogs are known for their intuitive and engaging nature. They are curious, portable, and can be incredibly comforting, making them perfect companions for those seeking a close bond with their pet.
However, with their strengths come challenges. Toy Dogs can be co-dependent, needy for attention, defensive, and wary of strangers. Their small size also makes them more fragile, requiring careful handling and a safe environment.
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Building Resilience in Toy Dogs
To ensure your Toy Dog thrives, it's crucial to focus on resilience conditioning.
This involves boosting their self-esteem, fostering independence, and providing adoration without coddling.
Predictability in their daily routine, combined with regular novelty, helps build their confidence. Equally important is teaching them alone-time skills, so they don't develop an unhealthy reliance on your constant presence.
Learn more by checking out my mini-course on Building Resilience in your Family Dog or by checking out Behavior Vet's Resilience Rainbow Framework
This involves boosting their self-esteem, fostering independence, and providing adoration without coddling.
Predictability in their daily routine, combined with regular novelty, helps build their confidence. Equally important is teaching them alone-time skills, so they don't develop an unhealthy reliance on your constant presence.
Learn more by checking out my mini-course on Building Resilience in your Family Dog or by checking out Behavior Vet's Resilience Rainbow Framework
Meeting the Modern Needs of Toy Dogs
Toy Dogs need clear, consistent, and fair boundaries to feel secure.
Incorporating enrichment activities like puzzle games, sniff walks, agility, and social play can significantly enhance their quality of life.
These activities not only keep them mentally stimulated but also help in nurturing their innate instincts, making them well-rounded pets.
Incorporating enrichment activities like puzzle games, sniff walks, agility, and social play can significantly enhance their quality of life.
These activities not only keep them mentally stimulated but also help in nurturing their innate instincts, making them well-rounded pets.
In conclusion, Toy Dogs may be small, but their impact is HUGE.
They offer unparalleled companionship, requiring their owners to provide them with love, attention, and proper care.
By understanding their history, genetics, and specific needs, you can ensure your Toy Dog lives a happy, fulfilling life—one filled with joy, comfort, and the occasional playful chase.
They offer unparalleled companionship, requiring their owners to provide them with love, attention, and proper care.
By understanding their history, genetics, and specific needs, you can ensure your Toy Dog lives a happy, fulfilling life—one filled with joy, comfort, and the occasional playful chase.
Let’s dive into 8 common triggers for dog conflicts, making it easier to prevent and manage these tense moments.
Understanding these triggers can help prevent conflicts and foster a sense of safety and security among your family pups.
Understanding these triggers can help prevent conflicts and foster a sense of safety and security among your family pups.
 | Changes in EnvironmentNew surroundings can be stressful for dogs, leading to conflicts as they adjust to unfamiliar sights, sounds, scents, and unpredictable spaces. Tip: Allow time for adjustment and provide as much familiarity as possible. Familiar beds, toys, food, routines, and people can work wonders. |
 | Genetic FactorsCertain breeds or genetic predispositions can influence a dog’s behavior, making some more prone to conflicts than others. Understanding your dog's breed tendencies can help in managing their interactions with other dogs. |
For example, while Bull Breeds are not meant to be bred to be aggressive dogs, they have been bred over many thousands of years to step-up in conflict, rather than to back down. The same goes for Terriers.
Guardians are bred to be suspicious of new people and animals.
Scent Hounds are bred to state their emotions vocally, clearly, and without influence from people.
Sight hounds and Herding Breeds are bred to be sensitized to quick movement in the environment.
Natural breeds (such as Huskies, Chow Chows, Eskimo Dogs) are meant to be independent hunters, while Gun Dogs are meant to be orally fixated and mouthy.
Toy breeds are meant to be sensitive and codependent. You can see where reactive behavior could stem from many of these natural tendencies.
Learn more about your dog's breed group: There are no blank slates
Guardians are bred to be suspicious of new people and animals.
Scent Hounds are bred to state their emotions vocally, clearly, and without influence from people.
Sight hounds and Herding Breeds are bred to be sensitized to quick movement in the environment.
Natural breeds (such as Huskies, Chow Chows, Eskimo Dogs) are meant to be independent hunters, while Gun Dogs are meant to be orally fixated and mouthy.
Toy breeds are meant to be sensitive and codependent. You can see where reactive behavior could stem from many of these natural tendencies.
Learn more about your dog's breed group: There are no blank slates
 | Tight SpacesLimited space can make dogs feel cornered, increasing the likelihood of reactive behavior. Tip: Open up spaces and move dogs through tighter areas (like doorways) one at a time to reduce stress. Imagine being stuck in a crowded elevator with a stranger. You can’t move much, and there's no way to avoid eye contact or accidental bumps. The tension can make you feel anxious or irritable, even if you’re usually friendly. Similarly, when dogs are in tight spaces, they can feel trapped and uncomfortable, which may lead to reactive behavior. Just like you’d probably prefer to have some breathing room, dogs need space to feel safe and relaxed. |
 | Barrier: Fences, Gates, LeashesFences, gates, and leashes can cause frustration and heightened arousal, often resulting in reactivity redirected towards another dog. Tip: Be aware of this trigger and encourage calm behavior and engagement with you during these scenarios. Training sessions to desensitize your dog to barriers can also be helpful. |
 | Social MaturityAs dogs reach social maturity, their tolerance levels can change, sometimes leading to unexpected reactive encounters. Think about how friendships change from childhood to adulthood. As kids, making friends is often as simple as sharing a toy or playing a game together. However, as adults, forming close relationships takes more time, trust, and understanding. Similarly, as dogs reach social maturity, their interactions become more complex. They may be less tolerant of new dogs and take longer to form bonds, just like how adults are more selective and cautious when making new friends |
 | Changes in Appearance or SmellChanges in a dog's appearance, such as a new haircut or wearing a cone, can confuse other dogs and trigger reactive behavior. Tip: Some dogs are sensitive to other animals that smell like places they have negative feelings about, like the vet’s office. Be mindful of introducing dogs after grooming or vet visits, and allow time for re-familiarization. |
 | Hormonal ChangesFluctuations in hormones, particularly in intact dogs, can influence reactive behaviors and interactions. The scent of intact adolescent males can trigger reactions from other dogs, so keep a close eye on interactions around new and familiar dogs. Female dogs in heat can exhibit increased irritability and reactivity, potentially leading to more reactive behavior towards other dogs. These hormonal fluctuations GREATLY affect mood and behavior, as I can personally attest to. 🫣 |
 | Changes in HealthHealth issues can make dogs irritable or defensive, leading to increased reactivity towards other dogs. Tip: Health changes can cause dogs to smell “off,” leading to bullying behavior from others. Get a thorough vet check for both dogs if conflicts are happening, especially if directed at one particular dog. |
Understanding these triggers can help prevent conflicts and foster a sense of safety and security among your furry family members. By being proactive and mindful of these factors, you can create a trusting environment where your dogs can coexist peacefully, much like Bowen and Lila (pictured below) 💕
Which ones trigger your dog(s)?
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The Neutral Zone
  | In the Neutral Zone, your dog shows no noticeable behavioral changes. They continue with their usual activities as if they don’t notice the trigger. In this phase, you would likely have a lot of success if trying to acclimate your dog to the potential trigger. This is especially good for sound acclimation (i.e. low volume vacuum cleaner sounds, train sounds, traffic sounds, etc) This is the phase where your dog is calm and relaxed and doesn't even seem to notice the trigger in the environment. For example: When your dog is enjoying a Kong or resting, you could play some traffic sounds on a really low volume. This will help acclimate your dog to sounds of traffic over time. Body language you might see:
How to Respond: Enjoy this calm state! This is the ideal zone for introducing new experiences gently and reinforcing positive behavior. |
The Curiosity Zone
  | In the Curiosity Zone, your dog perks up at the trigger and shows mild interest but then goes back to what they were doing or easily attends to you without prompting. This is a good zone for desensitization plans, where your dog is aware of the trigger but not overly concerned. For example, if your dog is showing signs of curiosity about cars driving by, this is a great time to name the car and reinforce your dog for just watching, before it turns into something more triggering. This can create a solid pattern for your dog. Car approaches = Check in with mom/dad for something delicious. Body Language:
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The Engaged Zone
  | In the Engaged Zone, your dog is more alert to the trigger but can still re-engage with you, especially if prompted. This is an optimal time for reinforcing alternative behaviors and creating positive associations with the trigger. For example: If your dog alerts to trucks driving past and only looks back to you if prompted, he is likely in the engaged zone. This is an essential time to start engaging your dog in al alternate behavior so that the trigger doesn't move to becoming emotional. Playing a "find it" scatter or practicing Hand Targeting can be nice alternatives to other choices your dog could make in the presence of trucks! Body Language:
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Watch as Jack works on moving through his trigger zones in the presence of neighborhood trucks!
The Emotional Zone
  | In the Emotional Zone, your dog becomes fixated on the trigger and struggles to re-engage with you. This state makes learning, listening, and responding to cues very difficult. For example: If your dog struggles with motorcycles and you see/hear one coming, this is a great time to practice your Emergency U-Turn to increase space from the trigger and then jackpot your dog for moving away with you. Body Language:
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The Reactive Zone
  | Description: In the Reactive Zone, your dog is highly reactive and struggles to focus or think through any learning. They might exhibit fight, flight, freeze, or frenzy responses, indicating high stress and anxiety. For example: If your dog has a really hard time with the UPS or Fedex truck and you are on a road walk, you are most likely at high risk of some Fedex or UPS truck passing by. Your dog likely isn't ready for neighborhood walks and should stick to parks and less at-risk spots. If you do have a delivery truck in the neighborhood, it's time to head home or back to your car because it will likely be around for a while. At the very least, don't expect your dog to respond to cues. He will be over threshold and can't think through that. Body Language:
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Understanding your dog's trigger zones is crucial for effective understanding and to ensure their well-being. By recognizing the signs and knowing how to respond appropriately, you can help your dog feel safe and supported in various situations. Remember, patience and positive reinforcement are key to building a strong, trusting relationship with your family dog.
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